Five Things Our Kids NEED
I’m a huge believer that we should be our kids' biggest fans and cheerleaders. Our homes need to be the place that our kids feel the greatest! Here are the top 5 things I believe our kids need the most from adults.
There is no possible way that anyone on planet earth will ever be a bigger encourager to Caleb Matthew Maddix than me! I’m determined to speak words of life, hope, and faith over my son. I’ve experienced such positive results in the behavior of my boy whenever I speak encouraging and positive words in his presence. He knows that his dad is his number one fan!
Kids need our TIME more than anything on earth. There is no home big enough, no jet ski fast enough, no car nice enough, no Xbox cool enough, and no amount of money that can replace TIME with our kids. They need us, and they need ALL of us.
The average dad spends only 17 minutes a day with his kids, and most of that isn’t even quality time. These dads love their kids, and they want to give them everything, but “everything” isn’t what kids want: they want YOU and your time. We should make it a practice to play with our kids doing what THEY want to do. We should make it a priority to take family walks and enjoy family meals without cell phones, the TV, or distractions.
Have you ever observed a child desperately seeking their parents' attention? It’s heartbreaking to watch, and even more heartbreaking when the parents aren’t sensitive to their kids' need for their attention. I’ve watched Caleb’s self-esteem sky rocket whenever I give him my undivided attention when we are together and when I listen only to him when he is speaking to me. Parents, you need to get your head out of the sky and give your kids the attention they so deserve!
Are you aware that the average child needs 8 meaningful touches a day? We need to shower our kids with physical affection. I always make it a practice to touch Caleb on the arm whenever he is speaking to me. I give him a huge hug before and after school! Our kids need to feel comfortable in our laps and in our arms. They should never have to deal with the psychological effects of living in a void of affection from their parents!
Kids need peaceful environments and homes. Our kids should never see us lose control and raise our voices. I can proudly say in that in 12 years of Caleb’s life, he has never experienced me “YELLING” at him or raising my voice. It’s unnecessary and very ineffective to scream at our kids. I believe that rules without relationship lead to rebellion. Most kids are “rebellious” because they are attention-starved by their parents; they need their parents to provide a home full of peace. You are the scum of the earth if you ever harm your child physically or make them feel anything less than peace when they are in your presence.
Please take this advice to heart and allow it to remind you to speak life over your kids, to shower them with affection, to spend quality time with them and to give them a home full of peace. I believe in you and pray that you’ll be the best parent you can possibly be for the health and future of your kids.
Matt Maddix, master sales trainer, consultant and CEO of Matt Publishing, is a successful international speaker and master motivator. He has hosted over 120 live events with as many as 32,225 registrants.
During past events, Maddix has shared the stage with some of the greats in the world such as: Kevin Harrington, Gary Vaynerchuck, Darren Hardy, Greg Reid, and Glenn Twiddle.
In conjunction with traveling as a motivational speaker, Matt is the founder Maddix Publishing, My Health Coach, TextNinjaPro and Maddix Missions. He is also the author of bestselling books How You Can Have It All and Just Juice It.
In addition, Maddix is co-host of two internet talk shows—Morning With Maddix and Fuel for Success.
Matt is best known for his life strategies along with his sales and marketing success, but he is most proud as the father of 15-year-old celebrity superstar speaker, Caleb Maddix.
His son was recently voted in the Top 20 Most Motivational People in the world. Caleb has been featured in Huffington Post, Forbes Magazine, Entrepreneur, Inc and interviewed on Good Morning Australia with over 8 million viewers. Caleb wrote his first book by age 12, Keys to Success for Kids and has already earned Six figures by age 14.
Matt lives in Los Angeles and St. Petersburg, Florida.