3 NLP Techniques to Break Through Fear and Limiting Beliefs
Humans are born with two fears. Fear of falling and fear of loud noises. But unfortunately, humans have a knack for developing new fears. Most adults have dozens of fears, both rational and highly irrational.
Fears get installed by our ‘programming’. Our upbringing, parents, schooling, friends, experiences and so on. Our programming includes everything we perceive through our five senses.
For example, a baby learning to crawl finds a spider, and as babies do, puts it into their mouth. This triggers the parents’ fear response. They yell, ‘No!’ and quickly pick the baby up. At that age, being picked up quickly is like falling. So, you have loud noises and falling in one moment. The child develops a fear of spiders, and later on, in life has no idea where it came from. That’s programming.
NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) and Limiting Beliefs
Fear isn’t bad. Being afraid of poverty or a life that lacks meaning can motivate us immensely. But being controlled by fear is terrible. Very bad.
At the Business Institute for Growth (BIG), one of our tasks is working with members to identify and overcome their fears.
By learning and practicing skills, we gain confidence. Once confidence and trust develop, we can begin using more in-depth techniques to dismantle more deeply held fears.
So what are some of these techniques? Below are three simple things you can do to start taking control of your fears.
1. Recognize the Emotional States
To change a habit, you need to identify it. So to change fears, you have to become aware of them. Start by prioritizing awareness in the present moment and being rooted in the sensations of the body. Do this by taking a few deep breaths.
By being rooted and aware we can examine our mental and emotional states. Are you happy, sad, bored, interested, checked out? Next, we can look at what triggered these states.
Only by being aware of fear, can we examine it deeply and get to its root.
2. Recognize Triggers
Here we begin to bring awareness to the events that trigger our fears.
For me, it’s someone saying ‘no.’ It drives me mad! I believe anything is possible, so to me, anyone who says no is a negative person.
No is my trigger. Especially if I believe the answer to be yes.
But, by noticing my reaction to ‘no,’ I can question it. Is my reaction justified? How does my behavior change as a result? Is the reaction appropriate?
And therein lies the rub. Which actions are appropriate? How do we consistently choose those?
3. Break the Pattern
Now, you’re in a position to change your reactions and implement ones that serve you. You have to find ways to break the pattern.
Take deep breaths. Slow down. Move to a different room. Go for a walk. Do whatever you need to change your state and clear your mind.
Ultimately, you’re trying to change how you view the trigger. By changing your mindset, you change your reaction and your life.
Chris Stock, CEO & founder of DevEvo, is an International Sales Trainer, Coach, Author & Keynote Speaker with over 20 years of sales experience. He has developed the salesforces of global companies such as Google, BMW, Sony pictures and Fujitsu. Hailing from the UK, Chris is currently enjoying the SoCal lifestyle, where actual sun can be found on a beach.