Are You Appealing or Repelling?


I attended a networking meeting the other day and there were all kinds of businesses in attendance: doctors, engineers, life coaches, sports figures, celebrities, network marketers, etc. You name it, they were probably there.

I scanned the room to see if there was anyone standing alone so I could walk up to them and engage them in conversation. (In the networking world there’s almost nothing worse than attending a networking meeting only to find yourself alone with no one to talk to - especially if you’re shy. How do I know this? Because I’m shy.)

I saw a couple people standing solo with their head buried in their cell phone. But before I approached any of them, I continued looking around the room to see what else was going on. (You see, I like to look from the periphery before I jump into a room. This helps my shy side open up before I enter (a technique I started using during my year of fears) so I am open to anything. It works great. Try it.)

On second look, I noticed a large number of people surrounding one gentleman. They appeared to be enthralled with his conversation and were hanging on every word. So, what did I do? I joined the large group, of course. I HAD to find out what was going on, who this was that attracted such a large crowd, what he was talking about and how I could serve him. The Law of Attraction says that “like attracts like” and it was hard at work that night.

As I got closer to the crowd, I realized why so many people were hanging around this guy. He was funny, very expressive with his body movements, and was passionate about what he was talking about. People were naturally attracted to him because he made them feel good.

How can we make sure we are attracting people to us rather than repelling them away from us?

I’ll go back to the solos who had their head buried in their phone. That type of behavior says “Stay away from me. I’m busy.” This behavior is a repellent. You are pushing people away from you before they even have a chance to talk to you. Then you go home after that networking meeting wondering why you didn’t get any leads.

Here are a few suggestions to help you attract people to you instead of repelling them away from you.

While out of the house, whether it’s attending a networking event or standing in line at the movie theater or, heck, standing in line at Starbucks, put your phone away and look around you. What human beings are standing near you that you can have a conversation with? It’s possible your next business partner walked in and out of your life because you had your head buried in the sand (you repelled them away). It’s time to get back to the basics and have conversations with real human beings. This will make you an attraction marketing machine. Are you ready for that?



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