Are You In or Are You Out?


I have had a few once in a lifetime opportunities, one or two I took a chance on, while the others, I regrettably passed up. As I reflect back on these opportunities and wonder what could have been, one thought comes to mind and sharply reverberates, I was afraid to commit.

One opportunity I recall, in particular, was a ground-floor partnership with a tech startup. The investment was a bit pricey but affordable; the work would have been significant, but enjoyable, yet, I was afraid to commit. Some years later, I ran into the guy who approached me, and to my surprise, he grew the company and was in negotiations of being acquired.

What a fool I was. Afraid to commit. That state of mind, of which many people have, caused me to miss out on the success I was desperately seeking and working towards in my professional career.

This raises the question, “Why are some people afraid to commit? Why was I afraid to commit?”  From that experience, the similar ones that followed and working with clients, coaching them through their own personal development while on the road to success, people are afraid to commit for three primary reasons:

Fear of the Unknown. The underlying thought is how is this going to happen, how is this going to work out or how are we going to… You get my point. Not knowing the “how,” keeps many people from achieving the success and personal freedom they deeply want.

Loss of Control. When there is uncertainty, we tend to lose control of our lives. And where there is a loss of power, the natural tendency is to go into survival mode, to defend and guard what’s most important to us. In many cases, it’s money, time and the energy we spend.

Limiting Beliefs. A hard pill to swallow, I know, but it was the case for me, and I’m sure it is for countless others, maybe even you. The things you’ve been told, the experiences you’ve had and the kind of people you’ve surrounded yourself with has shaped and formed your paradigm. A paradigm that now serves as a filter through which you make decisions.

If you’re to achieve a higher level of success so you can live life on your own terms and turn your dreams into a reality, you have to be willing to commit. Success doesn’t come without a determination, hard work and a firm commitment. I leave you with these words from a famed basketball coach, Pat Riley, “There are only two options regarding commitment; you’re either in, or you’re out.”


Cornelius “Mr. No Limits” Simon is a motivational speaker, personal success coach and professional development trainer passionate about helping others unlock their true potential and develop a clear path for achieving success in all areas of life.

His charisma, authenticity and practical approach for inspiring transformation and achievement has changed the lives of many resulting in personal freedom, happiness, and fulfillment.

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