Channeling Your Inner Boss Bitch
The Power of Vulnerability and Self-Awareness
What you’re about bleeds through not only in your lifestyle, but also in your business.
The whole idea of how can you cater to your customers when you can’t even be there for your own family – or how can you help someone when you can’t even help yourself is very much true.
More importantly, this saying is also true: you are the average of the five people you spend the most time with. If you’re surrounded by complainers and boring people – even if you have big dreams – their energy will cause you to be just like them just by being around them. I know. Scary.
Here’s my process and what I learned so far:
Acknowledge the Problem
In seeking change and growth, the first step is acknowledging that you, yourself, are a work in progress.
If you can’t even acknowledge that there is always room for growth – which begins with you – then how can you know if the problem is (always) external to begin with?
Take Responsibility and Find the Solution
The simplest part – though probably equally as painful – is the acknowledgement part because that means you actually have to find the solution.
Finding the solution then becomes a process that should be automatic or it could take days, weeks, months, or even years of searching…as long as you find it.
Seek Someone Smarter Than You
Finding the solution can even be found through the right connections. People who see your potential will bring out the vision within you that has withered due to spending time with the wrong people.
Your mentor should be accessible (not in a 24/7 way because, after all, they’re only humans) in an “I care about you” way. If you can’t even get that from your mentor, then what role exactly does she play in your life?
Apply Their Knowledge
I speak a lot about waking up in comparison with snoozing your alarm clock in the morning multiple times (bless the heart of those past roommates). Waking up, truly waking up in life, was the internal need for me to stop selling myself short. I had to apply the information I’d received. If I hadn’t, it would have been a waste of their time and mine.
Live it Out
Be about it. Just do it.
Share your problem to your friends, your family, your social network. Talk about it. Write about it.
By acknowledging the problem, taking responsibility and seeking out the solution, asking for guidance and applying their knowledge the final step is really just to live it out.
Who do you surround yourself with and now that you know what needs to be done, what will you do? And when will you do it?
Anna Ruth Ramos
Anna Ruth Ramos is a 23 year-old recent journalism graduate. She was born in Manila, Philippines and grew up in Miami and Lakeland, Florida. She went to high school in North Richland Hills, Texas and moved to San Diego, California for college. She attended Grossmont College, Azusa Pacific University in LA County and The King’s College in New York City.
She is a film aficionado who loves writing snippets of film reviews on Instagram and live tweets TV and award shows on Twitter. In her spare time, she likes writing short film scripts to save in her drafts.
She is passionate about women’s rights especially for the proper representation of women of color in media and advocacy for intersectional feminism.