Do You Have Faith In Yourself?
Have you ever struggled to look yourself in the eye in the mirror? Have you ever worried that the decision you’re making won’t be the right one? Have you ever lacked belief in yourself?
What is faith? It is a belief in something unseen. But what is the most unseen thing in our lives than ourselves? Our belief in ourselves is the easiest thing to lose faith in.
For the longest time, I didn’t believe in myself. Even if everyone in the room told me great things about me, I couldn’t see them when I looked in the mirror. And I can bet that I’m not the only one who has been there.
When I was 16 I had the opportunity to speak in my hometown church to the younger children. It was an honor I was looking forward to. However, the night before church I went out and partied. I got so drunk and high that I was still high the next day at church. I tried to speak and it made no sense. I embarrassed myself and I lost all credibility because everyone could tell I was on something. When I sobered up, I was so ashamed of my actions.
Looking back I knew that I got messed up the night before because I was afraid. I was afraid to fail so I drugged myself up. Not to mention all of the other emotional reasons I tried to drown out my emotional pain with other substances. I lacked faith in myself so I made a bad call that affected my vision for my life.
The older I got, my lack of faith in myself didn’t go away. I made more decisions that hurt me in many ways. My decisions put business relationships at risk, some of which even risked my own safety. All because I was focused on the immediate pain instead of the long term consequences of the decisions I was making.
One day I was faced with making a decision that would greatly benefit me financially and emotionally but it would cost me. It would cost me my sanity at times and my desperate need to be in control. I would have to focus on the long term gain instead of the immediate discomforts.
My choice to take over Stegela Partners Incorporated International as the COO, a company that has 10 plus corporations that each revenue 7 figures, was the best decision I ever made for my future but I had to get uncomfortable first. I had to face my demons. I had to commit to healing my trauma and working on myself on a daily basis. I had to learn how to have faith in myself.
Having faith in ourselves is one of the most fundamental needs in our society today. Faith in ourselves is what helps us to be confident in our decisions. It helps us to see things with clarity.
How do you develop faith in yourself though? Here are three keys:
1. Trust your gut.
We have instincts for a reason. Now I’m far from ‘woo-woo’ but I know that there is that inner voice that tells us what to do and in our bones, we know when something is wrong. Call it the universe, I call it God, whatever you call your inner voice, we all know deep down when something is right and wrong. Trust that.
2. Take responsibility.
Things don’t always go the way we have planned but if we learn to take responsibility when we mess up, we will learn to mess us less. When we own up to things we don’t only build credibility with others, we build it within ourselves.
3. Have a vision.
Belief in yourself is hard when we are only thinking of the next move. If we can develop a vision for ourselves and our lives than we will begin to make decisions that align with that vision. We begin to trust our decisions because we know where we are headed.
Having faith in ourselves begins with baby steps, like anything else. You don’t run a marathon before you ever run one mile. You don’t lift 300 lbs before lifting 10. Learning to make the right decisions and to have faith in yourself is the same way. It’s like eating an elephant (ew I know - not literally of course), it takes one bite at a time. One step at a time. One decision at a time.
Here’s a bonus key to help you start building faith in yourself today:
Faith is about understanding that it’s about the journey.
Every decision you make shapes the rest of your life. This isn’t something to be fearful of, it’s a beautiful thing. A diamond was originally just a rock. It had to be thrown into a fire and then chiseled away the black char before it begins to sparkle. You’re a diamond in the making. Understand that the steps you take today, shape your tomorrow and that even if things don’t always go as planned, you have the opportunity to create something beautiful with your life every day. Enjoy the journey.
I have faith in you, that you can have faith in yourself. Always remember, practice doesn’t make perfect. Practice makes confidence.
Casey Nicole Fox is an author, speaker, podcaster, and serial entrepreneur. Casey is the CEO and Editor-In-Chief of Life By Design Entrepreneur Lifestyle Magazine, San Diego’s ONLY print entrepreneurship magazine. She has four for-purpose businesses while also being the COO of the 8 figure empire of Stegela Partners International Incorporated, the umbrella company of Stegela Success Mastery.