I Dare You: Fight Like A Girl
To young boys, the phrase “You fight like a girl” is a negative thing. It means that the boy isn’t a good fighter and that he doesn’t hit hard. If we looked at how women fight, I think we could all agree that it isn’t a bad thing at all but rather a compliment.
A single mother who has to fight to put food on the table fights against the things society tells her will keep her from succeeding. She has to be both a mother and father to her children. She has to fight against societal norms. She has to fight to be strong enough to protect and love her children the way they deserve. She has to fight to be known as a strong woman instead of as a “MILF.”
A woman in corporate America has to fight for equal pay. She has to fight for fair treatment in the workplace. She has to elbow her way into the conference table filled with men. She has to fight to be seen as equal. She has to fight to be known as someone who can handle a lot instead of “doing it all.”
A woman who has been abused has to fight her inner demons. She has to fight the negative thoughts and fight to stay sane. She has to fight to trust again. She has to fight to live despite her pain. She has to fight to be known as “whole” instead of having “daddy issues.”
A woman entrepreneur has to fight to be taken seriously in business. She has to fight against her endless competitors. She has to fight to make sales and pay bills. She has to fight to tell herself that she is worth making millions. She has to fight to be known as a boss lady instead of “bossy.”
The fight that women have all over the world every day is to be known as equals. We have to fight off attacks from people who mean us ill will physically, sexually, and emotionally. We have to fight to love ourselves and others. Women fight with compassion. Women fight with tenderness. Women fight knowing that we all have hurt. Sometimes women even fight with manipulation. Women are as cunning as they are flexible.
So how do we fight like a girl?
“I've had to learn to fight all my life - got to learn to keep smiling. If you smile things will work out.” - Serena Williams
1. Fight with compassion.
Women are natural leaders and lovers. We are created to give life. Women only fight when something they care for is threatened. They fight to protect those they love and their honor. If you look at mothers in the wild, they are the protectors of their young. Women shape the future more than men ever could. Go into a fight with love.
“If I fall, I'll fall five feet four inches forward in the fight for freedom. I'm not backing off.” - Fannie Lou Hamer
2. Fight with creativity.
Have you ever watched those videos of two women going at it? They scratch, pull hair and slap. It’s nasty! When women fight they find creative ways to take down their opponents. Naturally, women access the creative side of their brains. The problem-solving side of our brain; the ability to think outside of the box.
“We can all fight against loneliness by engaging in random acts of kindness.” - Gail Honeyman
3. Fight with the end in mind.
Every decision has a consequence. Every fight has a winner and a loser. Even in a tie, someone lost something. If you fight with an understanding of the big picture, your moves will help you achieve that end goal. If you understand your opponent before you fight, you can walk away from a fight making the loser feel like they have won.
“If you want to have a life that is worth living, a life that expresses your deepest feelings and emotions and cares and dreams, you have to fight for it.” - Alice Walker
Whether you are fighting your inner demons or fighting for equal pay. Fighting for the sale. Fighting to put food on the table or fighting to help more people. I dare you: fight like a girl. I promise you’ll win every time.
Casey Nicole Fox is an author, speaker, podcaster, and serial entrepreneur. Casey is the CEO and Editor-In-Chief of Life By Design Entrepreneur Lifestyle Magazine, San Diego’s ONLY print entrepreneurship magazine. She has four for-purpose businesses while also being the COO of the 8 figure empire of Stegela Partners International Incorporated, the umbrella company of Stegela Success Mastery.