Influence: The Good, The Bad, And You


Influence is a word that can mean many things. You have the social media world which is filled with influencers, hypnotists with influence over the mind, and people trying to mass influence through money, power, and love. But what is influence really? Influence: the capacity to have an effect on the character, development, or behavior of someone or something, or the effect itself.

The truth is, we all have influence in one way or another, at the very least we have influence over ourselves. It is interesting to think that influence is something that we can hold over ourselves; however, you control what you say, what you think, and ultimately what you believe. Influencing your own thought is something that people have done for years, and is a key to becoming massively successful in every area of your life. When you control what you believe you control where you place your time and your energy. So here are some secrets to start influencing your thinking from bad thoughts to good thoughts.


The Bad: Whether intentional or not you are always affirming beliefs in your mind. This includes the bad things you say to yourself daily. It doesn’t matter if you are saying, "Well, I’m as dumb as a joke." If you believe it or not, your subconscious doesn’t know the difference. This means all the dark jokes you make about being silly, dumb, klutzy, or even just too short, your mind will start to believe. So the sooner you stop telling yourself you are dumb, the sooner you will stop believing it.

The Good: Anything you say to yourself repeatedly you will eventually believe. This includes all the good stuff. When you repeatedly say something, your brain starts to form new pathways in your mind. These pathways are where your mind will naturally go once they have become concrete, so instead of your mind automatically jumping to you being dumb, it will jump to you being a genius.

Forgive Your Past:

The Bad: Your past is something that may follow you around, and you may find yourself often dwelling on memories that leave you feeling stuck and lost. Living in the past will stop you from ever moving forward to the level you desire to be at. Everyone has a past, without the ability to retain these lessons we would have to learn how to reopen doors continually. But this means we often find ourselves remembering lessons that stop us from progressing. It’s time to forget that negative programming and learn to dream again for the future.

The Good: The past is just that… Past. So it's time for you to get past it. This may seem like a difficult task, but the best thing you can do is just make the next right decision for yourself. Whatever that decision is for you to move through the hurt you have gone through. It may be giving someone just a little more trust today than yesterday, it could be being vulnerable. Whatever you can do to help from your past and move to your future.

You have the power to influence your thoughts, your beliefs, and the rest of your life. But if you continue to believe things about yourself that will hold you back, or keep you living in the past, you won't find your way to your future. So take this time to make a decision, draw a line in the sand and say I will no longer allow myself to be influenced by others, but instead, I will influence myself.

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Stephen Dela Cruz is a best selling author, speaker and serial entrepreneur who specializes in helping budding entrepreneurs double their income in their first year. He’s built several 7 figure businesses and in his online school, The Mastermind Experience, he shares strategies around time and money management to help beginning entrepreneurs soar. You can see more about Stephen on his website and follow him on his Facebook page.