Relationship With Mom

Growing With Gratitude


“The natural state of motherhood is unselfishness.” - Jessica Lange

The most foundational and complex of all relationships start in the womb. We hear her heartbeats, go where she goes. For about 40 weeks, 24/7, we are one with our mother.


I had a mother, I had a mother-in-law, and I am a mother. Last year I lost my mother.


Recently, some of my friends have lost their children. These scenarios come together to form a web of thoughts, feelings, actions, and reactions that form the basis of our society. Having “mother issues” can be a crippling reality for some. Having a rock-solid bond with a mother is the hope of all.


Everyone needs to love and be loved; it’s part of the human experience. That’s how we define the mother and child relationship.


How is your relationship with your mom? Maybe you have a mentor who has taken you under his or her wing to provide that motherly advice. Perhaps you have an estrangement that eats away at your soul. The fortunate few have an unbreakable, deeply satisfying bond.


Whatever your circumstance, I invite you to share your feelings of appreciation and gratitude with that special person. Celebrate the mother you have and the mother you are. Here are some ideas to get you started:


  1. Call, text or, best of all, visit your mom. Even a simple “I just wanted to say I appreciate all you’ve ever done for me” goes a long, long way in building good karma!


2)    If your mom isn’t available, assist someone else in appreciating his or her mom. If you know a mom who has lost a child, reach out to comfort her or reminisce with her.


3)     Do something tangible, an act of kindness or donate to honor your mother. “Pay it forward” in her name. For example, offer free babysitting to a mom who needs a break! Or offer to drive a mom and her kids to the beach or a favorite park.


4)     My favorite? Send a card. You can send something with a meaningful photo on the front and a heartfelt message on the inside.


Don’t wait until it’s too late. There is no time like the present.




AppreciationPAL, powered by Random Act of Kindness Cards, was launched in late 2017 by Kathy Kendrick of San Diego, California.  Kathy is an entrepreneur with more than 20 years of experience in education, a mother of three young men, and a spirited woman seeking to develop and express her authentic self.  She is a columnist for San Diego's only magazine exclusively for entrepreneurs written by entrepreneurs, Life By Design.  Ready to grow your business while making a difference?  She is looking for people to join her on this journey of Relationship Marketing.