Sisters Keeper - Competition Among Women

Sisters Keeper - Competition Among Women


In years past there has been an underlining notion that women are catty, and that women just can’t get along. The term "catty" is a sexually biased way of describing an unhealthy proposal in which women interact with one another as it relates to healthy competition. 

Although we live in a male-dominated culture, where it is more acceptable for a man to express his competitive nature, and an unrealistic thought process when it comes to combining women and competitiveness; is somehow lost in translation. Consequently, this leaves many women feeling inadequate for having any sense of a competitive nature. Women have historically been expected and/or perceived to be more covert or manipulative in our effort(s) to achieving success; preconceived notions similar to this example, could not be further from the truth. There is a great need for competitive acceptance among women, which in turn will present more opportunities for women in leadership or expert roles. Furthermore, I think women have a different attitude as it relates to competitiveness, putting themselves out there, and risk taking.

When we think about the gender gap in pay, it’s easy to blame discrimination, as it is a very dismissive way to push aside the detrimental cycle of sexism, and the destructive effects of gendered norms. I believe one of the issues is few women are willing to enter the competition, which results in very few women who win the competition. If we as women plan to combat the social norms that have stifled our development as a collective, we have to start embracing the idea of health completion.

As a personal, professional development and career coach, I want to leave you with some helpful tips that will assist you in making a paradigm shift within your own thinking, as it relates to the theory of competition among women. 

1.) Women who feel more confident within themselves are less vulnerable to feeling threatened by another woman’s success; as they are fully aware that celebrating and /or congratulating another woman takes nothing entirely from their value. However, if at any moment you begin to feel that unpleasant feeling of insecurity, immediately reflect, and ask yourself the following; “Why do I feel insecure around successful women?” “Why is it difficult for me to celebrate another woman’s success at this point in time? “ What can I do to learn from this women success, as opposed to comparing myself?’ 

2.) Competition does not have to be threatening or vicious but can be a great source of inspiration, and allow for a healthy alternative for aggression, and vying (sports, Games, Gym, Marathon, debates, etc.)

I hope these tips leave you with a brand new perspective concerning women, and competition

Lilene French

My name is Lilene French, and I am the CEO & Founder of  Reflections of a Queen, LLC. I am a professional certified life coach and my credential is legally recognized nationally.