The Confidence Factor
It was a battle between two well-qualified job candidates. One had a few more years of experience over the other, but their skills were nearly identical, and both held similar positions in the past. As the interview team was going back and forth, trying to decide which candidate would be the best fit for the team, the hiring manager was compelled to step in and make the tough decision. Seemingly frustrated with their indecisiveness, she stands up and says, “we're going with the candidate with less experience.”
Curious as to why the less experienced candidate was chosen, Mark decided to ask his manager. “Melissa, why didn't you choose the candidate with more experience?”, she stood up from behind her desk, took off her glasses and said, “I went with the candidate who was more confident.”
In most situations, confidence will beat out experience, skills, and talents every time. Why? Because confidence is the “X” factor that stands out and causes others to take notice. It shows others you believe in yourself and that you're capable of adapting and handling difficult situations.
How to Develop Your Confidence Factor
Here are a few tips to help develop your Confidence Factor:
Keep trying until you're confident. Confidence comes as you apply consistently, repeated effort and action. If you want to get rid of your fear of speaking in public, you have to speak in public more. If you want to grow your business, but you get nervous at networking events, you have to attend more networking events. You keep trying until you're confident.
Feed off the energy of others. To stick with our networking example, if you get nervous when meeting new people, attach yourself to someone who is comfortable and confident talking to strangers. Feeding off this person's energy will help develop your confidence.
Visualize yourself already confident. A great technique for developing self-confidence is to see yourself how you would be as a confident person. Start by creating a situation in your mind that depicts you in that confident state, then spend a few minutes getting into what it feels like to be confident. This is a powerful strategy for removing mental blocks and transforming the mind.
Learn how to better handle rejection. Many people fail to develop self-confidence because of the fear of being rejected. By learning how to handle rejection, you're able to guard your inner feelings against wanting to give up and stop trying. The next time you feel rejected, instead of internalizing people's response, look at their response as of way of becoming better.
Keep it positive. Developing self-confidence doesn't happen overnight. Look for the positive in each repeated effort and action you take. Use positive self-talk, such as affirmations, to help you move past fears and to keep trying until you have the confidence you need.
It's the Confidence Factor that will set you apart and help you to succeed in business, career, and life, without it you're twice defeated.
Cornelius “Mr. No Limits” Simon is a motivational speaker, personal success coach and professional development trainer passionate about helping others unlock their true potential and develop a clear path for achieving success in all areas of life.
His charisma, authenticity and practical approach for inspiring transformation and achievement has changed the lives of many resulting in personal freedom, happiness, and fulfillment.
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