The Mistake Success Entrepreneurs Don't Make
One of the biggest mistakes that I see entrepreneurs make is comparing themselves to others. I see this happen way too often, and the results can be damaging for not only the entrepreneur, but also for their business. You would think that comparing yourself to others would be beneficial because it should give you a fuel of motivation. Observing the life of another successful entrepreneur should prompt you to grow and excel to a place where you can at least match the greatness of the person you are comparing yourself to. However, in most cases, this does not occur; rather, dangerous unhealthy emotions and thoughts begin to form and eventually take your self confidence hostage.
The truth is that most of you would not be able to handle the pressure, scars, setbacks, failures, and risks that most successful people have experienced. There is a level of psychological strain and stress that accompanies success. Many successful people have given up relationships, secure jobs, homes, and financial security to become the success that they are today. Blood, sweat, tears, pain, and heartache accompany success. There are extreme sacrifices required to get to the top that most of you would be unwilling to make.
With all that being stated, your number one focus should not be on someone else's journey. Why? Because you are unique. You have your own mission, passion, purpose, and talent that is completely unique. That means that your journey, while it may be similar, will be different than anybody else's. This means that you must focus on mastering your craft and genius. Maximize your strengths and become the best version of yourself.
When you refuse to compare yourself to others, you become confident and comfortable in your own skin. In order to avoid the temptation of unhealthy comparisons, I suggest the following.
1. Celebrate the greatness of others
Rather than comparing someone's success with your own, admire their success. The formula for success is different for each person, so when you are celebrating someone else, you are celebrating their unique talents and gifts. You are also celebrating every factor in their life that has helped them reach their point of success. They may have had a great support system at home, better opportunities, higher level education, or beneficial business connections. Either way, don't allow these factors to create jealousy; rather, applaud their efforts and celebrate their triumphs. Don't let the success of their journey discourage you. Let it propel you to enjoy your journey, go after your dream, and fulfill your purpose.
2. Learn from the greatness of others
Many people spend most of their time trying to become exactly like successful people. They want to become the next Oprah, Tony Robbins, Warren Buffet, Grant Cardone, etc. The problem with this is that space is already taken. Instead of trying to become one of these successful people, commit to learning from them in order to become YOU. Learn about their habits, work ethic, and their keys to success. Incorporate this knowledge into your own unique personality and gifts in order to become a better YOU. This puts you in a place of empowerment as opposed to feeling defeated that you will never be these successful people.
3. Compare yourself to the person you were yesterday
The greatest study that you will ever take part in is the study of yourself. Examine who you were yesterday to determine if you will be a success today. Ask yourself questions. Are you reading your brains out? Are you growing? Are you investing in coaching and training? Are you living average? Comparing yourself to other people can take the focus off or yourself and put it on other people. The problem then arises that you begin to neglect the truths of who you really are, which cause you to ignore unhealthy patterns and habits that are hindering your own personal success. It also can cause you to stay in a constant state of defeat while you start to embrace hopelessness and an overall feeling of being unworthy.
My friends, you have to realize that there is enough room at the top. You can be secure without feeling the need to compare yourself with others. Let go of the thought that you will never arrive or measure up. You are already great, and you have already arrived. If you live this way, you are going to be more focused and free to walk your own path. Enjoy the journey of being uniquely YOU.
Matt Maddix, master sales trainer, consultant and CEO of Matt Publishing, is a successful international speaker and master motivator. He has hosted over 120 live events with as many as 32,225 registrants.
During past events, Maddix has shared the stage with some of the greats in the world such as: Kevin Harrington, Gary Vaynerchuck, Darren Hardy, Greg Reid, and Glenn Twiddle.
In conjunction with traveling as a motivational speaker, Matt is the founder Maddix Publishing, My Health Coach, TextNinjaPro and Maddix Missions. He is also the author of bestselling books How You Can Have It All and Just Juice It.
In addition, Maddix is co-host of two internet talk shows—Morning With Maddix and Fuel for Success.
Matt is best known for his life strategies along with his sales and marketing success, but he is most proud as the father of 15-year-old celebrity superstar speaker, Caleb Maddix.
His son was recently voted in the Top 20 Most Motivational People in the world. Caleb has been featured in Huffington Post, Forbes Magazine, Entrepreneur, Inc and interviewed on Good Morning Australia with over 8 million viewers. Caleb wrote his first book by age 12, Keys to Success for Kids and has already earned Six figures by age 14.
Matt lives in Los Angeles and St. Petersburg, Florida.