Three Practical Tips to Effectively Express Your Gratitude
As social beings, we are biologically wired to work in a community. This is easily seen by the good feelings we all get when either giving or receiving help from others. But have you ever noticed that individuals can respond differently to the same expressions of gratitude? In some instances, the recipient’s response can be just a lukewarm “thanks.” Even worse, a gift may actually have the opposite reaction and offend the recipient! Here are a few of my favorite ways of making sure my efforts to express gratitude are received with genuine appreciation.
ProTip 1: Keep Track of People You Want to Thank
“When I started counting my blessings, my whole life turned around.”
Sometimes we get so caught up in life that we overlook the time and effort some people invest in serving us. Maybe it’s a spouse who does the chores day in and day out with pride and joy without a peep of complaint. Perhaps it’s a co-worker who writes a weekly status report that saves you an hour every day because you don’t have to do the research yourself. Who are the unsung heroes in your life?
Action: List three people who deserve the praise that you haven’t thanked in the past month ________, ________, and ________.
ProTip 2: Understand What Individuals Appreciate From Their Perspective
“One Man’s Trash is Another Man’s Treasure”
It’s a shame that the word “regift” even exists because it exemplifies the prevalence of people receiving such bad gifts that they actively reject it by pawning it off on someone else. Wouldn’t you want your gift recipient to cherish what you give them genuinely? Do this by actually finding out what is essential to the other person. Do they love a particular sports team? Get them some sports swag! Do they love chocolate? Get them a family-size bag of Lindor Truffles! Perhaps they respond best to simple words of encouragement. Tell them how much you appreciate what they’ve done for you! If you do a little research especially on social media, you can make sure your efforts aren’t wasted.
Answer this question: Of the people you listed above, what are 3 things that each of those people would appreciate from their points of view? ______________, ___________, and _____________.
ProTip 3: Use The Element of Surprise
“The Unexpected Moment is Always Sweeter”
Many times in life we expect to receive things. Birthdays, holidays and life events are some prime examples. Have you ever received a surprise gift? I bet there was an extra sense of joy merely because someone was thinking of you out of the blue. Don’t just show thanks once per year. Make it a daily habit and watch how you can brighten someone’s day and you’ll be surprised how often it comes back to you.
Action Step: Show one unexpected act of gratitude at least once per day.
I’d absolutely love to hear about any stories you have of unexpected gratitude. Feel free to reach out!
Steve Meim has over twelve years of experience working as a professional in the video game industry and is credited with working on award-winning titles that have been enjoyed by millions of people around the world. His success in creating a career where he’s excited to work every single day has inspired him to use video games as a tool to help others to do the same. Want to find out how video games even saved his life? Find him at his link above.