What Does The Fox Say? Patterns
What is a pattern? Webster's dictionary defines it as: "a repeated decorative design." A pattern is something that repeats over and over again.
Our lives are like a quilt made up of many different patterns. We take the same commute to work every day, stop at the same coffee shop, and drop our kids off at the same daycare.
Our patterns aren't just physical, they are mental. The thoughts we have and the actions we take create our emotional patterns.
We all know that 1+1=2 and after A and B in the English alphabet is C. We are taught the same things as every other child in public school in the United States. We also learn from experiences; we learn that if you touch a hot stove, you get burned; 1+1=2, hot + touch = a burn. We learn that if we misjudge the jump from the swing to the sand that we will be eating sand; misjudge + air bound = eating sand.
Most parents hope to instill in their children the knowledge of 1+1, that their actions have consequences. Consequences can be good and they can be bad. Most parents try to teach their children that doing good = good rewards and doing bad = bad consequences. What some parents don’t seem to realize is that beyond teaching their children wrong from right, they teach their children their own patterns.
Patterns are passed down from generation to generation. How your parents treat one another is how you perceive love is supposed to be. How your parents cope with stress teaches you how to cope. We learn so much more from our surroundings than most people want to admit.
What patterns did your parents teach you? What patterns are you repeating in your life? Destructive relationships? Poor money management? Drinking problems? Anger issues? Poor interpersonal skills? If you're one of the lucky few who learned NOTHING dysfunctional from your parents, PTL (praise the Lord)! But most of us learned at least one thing.
The interesting thing about patterns is that you can learn a new one but the old patterns can come back like muscle memory if you're not careful. You have the power to break those patterns and be free of the cycles that hold you back. It's a simple 3-step process: S.S.E.
How to Break a Pattern
Step 1: See the negative pattern
You cannot conquer what you will not confront. The first step is admitting you have a problem.
Step 2: Seek help
You need someone to hold you accountable, someone who you can trust and will stick by your side through the struggles.
Step 3: Eat the elephant
How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time. Take one step forward at a time and little by little you will get there!
Make this new year about making changes in your life, breaking negative patterns and starting fresh!
Casey Nicole Fox
Casey Nicole Fox is a partner in all of Stegela’s corporations and she is the “Bulldog,” the one to answer to if you mess up, our “Vice Principle.” Casey is a successful young entrepreneur.
In addition to being a partner at Stegela, she owns multiple businesses, is starting a nonprofit, and is starting her career in the Real Estate industry. All of her businesses are for-purpose and she really emphasizes the need to give back as an entrepreneur.
Casey is a prolific writer and an avid podcaster. She started her entrepreneurial journey only 4 years ago, having to radically change her mindset from employee (having 4 jobs) to entrepreneur (owning 4 companies).