When Family Starts With A Broken Heart

When Family Starts With A Broken Heart


According to every source that I checked, 50% of marriages in America end up in divorce. When it comes to second marriages, the percentage goes up to 60% and 70% on the third.

Why do you think that it happens? 

Most people start a relationship that will become a family, from a broken heart, expecting to last a lifetime.

But then, the very best things that enamor you are the very worse things that you hate. In the meantime, babies are on the way, a new home, new cars, credit cards….and you end up in "The war of roses," with families and kids involved in the war… and everyone loses. Because my friend, no matter what you could accomplish in the divorce settlement, every person involved in the process of divorce ends up wounded.

If you happen to have kids, the wounds can be deep and last their lifetime, with so many consequences, it would take a whole article to describe them.

That is how families are built in America and most of the world and it all starts with two broken hearts trying to fill each other's needs.

That was my own experience, and after four kids and almost 20 years of marriage, I went through a very painful and nasty divorce that affected my kids in so many ways, even up to today. 

I had the fortune to realize I needed help, I needed support to change my present and not only my future, but the future of my kids. That's when my journey started, and some years later, I found the love of my life, had my 5th baby and ever since (15 years ago) we all live a beautiful life filled with love, passion, adventure, and most of all, I love deeply and feel deeply loved, 24 x 7, 365 days a year. 

That is why I do what I do, to show the world it is possible to build a true relationship that can last forever, from a healed and full heart. From there, you can start a family with an indestructible and robust foundation. Every little and big thing you need to do to get there will be worth it.

That is why I created a Process called H.E.R., let me share it with you:

H: Healing

Healing from previous relationships, from those beliefs you learn when you were a child, from every single thing you say to yourself like: I'm not good enough, I don't deserve this, I'd better settle, who is going to love me?, I NEED SOMEBODY to LOVE ME, etc. Healing from everything wrong, everything you learned and was told about love.

E: Empowering

After you heal, you can find out who you indeed are, and start loving yourself with grace and acknowledgment. Realizing you are a miracle and you don't NEED anybody to fulfill you, because when you healed yourself, you became a WHOLE person.

R: Redesigning

Now that you are a whole person, you can design the relationship you want to build, the kind of love you want to feel, every day of your life. You don't NEED somebody anymore; you are ready to LOVE that person that your heart and soul truly desires, somebody that you will want to be with and choose every day like if it were the first one.

And from that person you have become, the REAL YOU, you will build a family with the most steady and powerful foundation: LOVE, a love shared by two whole beings ready to build a life together that can last a lifetime.

I can't wait to see what you can do when you apply H.E.R. steps into your life; please feel free to share your story with me at love@americaslovequeen.com. I would love to read your story of success.


Sylvia "America's Love Queen" Chavez


Let me introduce you to Sylvia Chavez, an Extraordinary Love Coach with over 15 years experience serving women all over the world. Sylvia has cracked the code for true and for ever lasting love. She believes you can write your own love story beyond your wildest dreams without settling for anything less than what your soul and heart truly desire.